The Apple Of God's Eye

February 22, 2010

Retaliation In Anger Is Hatred!

Filed under: Hatred — melchia @ 3:11 am
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Allowing our temper to fester, or holding a grudge, could turn into hatred for the other person. This would be breaking the spirit of the Sixth Commandment (Matthew 5:21-22). None of these responses would do anything but hurt both you or the other person.

Your goal should not be to prove that you are correct, that the other person is wrong or that you are treated fairly in the future. If these are your goals, you will be unsuccessful in dealing with your anger. You must have a goal of getting rid of your angry emotions and improving your relationship with the other person.

Don’t allow yourself to act or speak before you think. Remember to stay in control of your emotions. Begin talking to the other person calmly and rationally. Let him know what he has done that has hurt you and angered you.

Name-calling and insults will only worsen the problem. Express how you feel and try to build upon common characteristics. This will require tact and self-control on your part. Ask God to help you to grow in these character traits.

Even if the other person started the problem and is completely wrong, you must swallow your pride and be willing to forgive. Try to look at things from his point of view. Give him the benefit of the doubt, and don’t judge him too harshly. Follow God’s example of being slow to anger (Nehemiah 9:17) and willing to forgive (1 John 1:9).

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